Empowerment and the 90's

I speak of empowerment quite a bit.  I was what you called a "roamer" or "wanderer" for many years.  Some would say I was running from something.  I like to say I was on a journey through life. 


During many times of my adventures, I attached music to the different chapters of my journey.  It's kind of like when you wish this great song would come on at this epic moment in your life and play while you are making an entrance or wishing you were kissing in the rain...a "major grandiose" moment. =)


I just came across a list I made a few years back after I left a pretty bad marriage.  My mom always told me that if I walked in a bar, I would pick the dirtiest, greasiest, most tattooed guy with mommy issues in the place and want to fix him.  Well, she was right and that is exactly what happened.


So, I am now posting the list I made back in 2008.  Let this be a reminder to all women that you deserve nothing but the best. Don't ever be embarrassed for wanting it all and going for it.  Sometimes, we have to save ourselves and we come out stronger than ever before....And of course, I am attaching my song of the 90's that I reference when I want to remember how it felt during one of those epic moments.

My Promises to Myself

These guidelines will be promises to me from now on.  I think, at this point in my life, it is necessary for me to unburden myself with the undue baggage from my past and participate in the magnificence of being a powerful strong woman.  Here are the promises I make to myself:

I will no longer "walk on eggshells" throughout my own home or someone else's.

I will not show fear through anger.

I will not be a victim in any way ever again!!!

I will always contribute my thoughts, ideas, and feelings so I can be me.

I will love my awkward, quirky side, and one day, somebody will love it too.

I will be best friends with the person I choose next to move forward with.

I will be completely myself uncensored from now on, and if offended or put out; well, best to wear ear plugs when you see me.

The next person I date will like to read, watch murder mysteries, laugh, spar with me, cook, and be okay with just being themselves.

I will not prove myself to anyone. 

I will accept happiness at face value because I have learned you never know what comes the next day. 

 I don't want past mistakes or old ghosts to ever get in the way of my happiness. Some of us have graveyards buried in those mothball ridden back closets!  I believe that we learn lessons for a reason, and I had to have a few whoppers in life.  Everyone deserves love, adventure, and laughter all the days of their journey.